She is in the mood and wants to have some fun, but you are too tired and don’t have the desire to have fun. A few days later, you are in the mood, but she does not have the mood.
Do you find this happening regularly in your life? If yes, do not worry. This is a familiar phase that every individual goes through in life.
In humans, sexual desire is there, but as one age, the energy starts diminishing. Low energy impacts not only sex life but also other aspects of your life. One starts becoming apathetic and no longer enjoys life’s pleasures.
However, all is not lost. Having low energy does not mean that your sex life has run its full course, and there is nothing that can be done.
Many strategies can be followed to get back the zing and giving the A+ performance. The following paragraphs attempt to find the energy drainers and things that can be done to regain the drive.
The Energy DrainersA man’s lost sexual vigor is related to some type of relationship, emotional, or physical issues. Some of the common causes are:
Decreased TestosteroneOne of the primary reasons for reduced libido is male hypogonadism. This happens when the male body stops producing enough testosterone. One of the common side effects of decreased testosterone is fatigue.
Research has shown that once a man reaches his late 30s, there is a drop of about 1% in testosterone levels every year. This percentage can reach up to 45-50% as one reaches 70. However, all is not lost.
There are enough replacement therapies that can address this issue. Once your doctor determines that you have low testosterone, he can write a script for topical gel, absorbable pellet implants, injections, or patches.
These replacement therapies do work. Studies have reported that taking replacement therapies for one year can help in improving the libido.
These studies have also reported a 50% increase in sexual arousal in men who took testosterone replacement therapies.
If you feel you have low testosterone, talk to your doctor. They will order a blood test that will help in determining the testosterone levels.
You can discuss with your doctor and see if testosterone therapy is useful for you. However, it comes with the associated risk of prostate issues and cardiovascular diseases.
Erectile dysfunctionYou are said to have erectile dysfunction or ED when you are not able to either get an erection or keep the erection firm.
People having erectile dysfunction tend to experience low energy as it hurts their self-esteem. Many men get embarrassed by ED and start worrying about getting judged due to it. This results in decreased energy and motivation for sex.
If you have ED, talk with your doctor about exploring options like a penile pump, ED drug or other options. Also, try communicating with your partner. It can help in relieving the stress of worrying about performing at your highest level.
Poor sleepAn often ignored energy zapper is a lack of sleep. Poor or lack of sleep not only increases stress levels but also interferes with the proper functioning of the body and brain.
It makes you feel sluggish and this invariably affects your libido. Speak with your doctor if you are having troubled sleep or lack of sleep.
You can get cognitive behavioral therapy, adjust your diet, take medication or change their dosing, or adjust the sleeping environment to improve the quality of sleep.
Lack of movementGet up and start moving. This is the common refrain of doctors when you complain of decreased libido. Being a couch potato or having a sedentary lifestyle does not help in improving the sexual drive.
A natural booster shot for increased testosterone is doing regular exercise. Three hours of moderate-intensity workout in a week is enough for increasing the testosterone levels. Combine weight-bearing and cardio exercises for more benefits.
Syncing Your Love LifeOne of the biggest drainers of sexual drive is the lack of syncing between partners. Your partner might be in the mood but you are too stressed out or vice versa.
As women age and enter into their 40s, their body starts preparing for menopause. It can result in physical symptoms like increased flushing, and vaginal dryness. Having sex during these times can be physically uncomfortable for women.
This will result in reduced sex drive and cause them to avoid sex. This affects both partners, and a lack of sexual arousal in women can result in the man to lose his sex drive.
The best option in these situations is having communication. Inform your partner that sex is important to you but it’s not at the cost of hurting her.
Discuss things that can be mutually done which provides that intimacy and closeness which sex tends to offer. A romantic getaway, going for more dates, or a long drive can serve as non-sexual options.
You can also ask your partner to be there when you indulge in self-pleasure.
Most often, sexual barriers do not involve sex. It might be some underlying issues that are affecting the relationship. Having an open dialogue can help in revealing these issues and addressing them.
Getting closer and doing new things can also ignite lost sexual energy.
Also, keep yourself healthy and have regular checkups to avoid any nasty surprises when you are ready to impress your partner.